Uncommon behaviour: being polite

Written by alejo on April 7th, 2009

Last week I happened to lose a game, I was totally beaten. Even I could count the points I had on the board… In order to practise yose a little bit, I asked my opponent if he would mind playing the game till the end, though assuming I had lost.

After a short while, he accepted my request and so we went on playing. We went on playing and I was shown a couple of tesujis I hadn’t realised. In the end, my opponent made a invasion in a 4×3 corner, killed my group and shortened my score by a bunch of points. We held a nice conversation about the life-and-death situation of some groups and the whole game. A couple of minutes later, my opponent confessed he had been impressed by my petition and thus, he happily accepted.

I regard that game as the most didactic one in the whole month.

Mental note: Noone is polite, if you are polite, people are more willing to teach you.

As easy as it seems, very few people are following this rule. Though KGS still retains a friendly atmosphere, usually only 5 words take place during the games: hi, gg (stansds for good game), good luck, thx  and bye; going somewhat deeper within the game may come back as a nice reward.

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2 Comments to “Uncommon behaviour: being polite”

1. Posted by Daniel, February 7th, 2010 at 9:19 am

Well, I prefer not to chat during the game, it distracts me a lot. That doesn’t mean I’m not polite. I’m more than willing to chat or review the game after we played. Even if I play in life I try not to talk as I can’t concentrate on the game.
I don’t think it’s reasonable to ask to play to the end to practice yose. I mean you can practice yose solving problems or at the game when the score is close. I heard a lot from high dans and even pros that it’s impolite not to resign if you are losing more than 15. points.

2. Posted by Alejo, February 19th, 2010 at 4:59 pm

Talking distracts me too, and I’m quite disturbed by these players which make constant noise by playing with the stones in their bowls.
But, when it comes to “asking to go on”, I can’t agree with your point of view. Yose tsumego are nice, but it’s certainly better to practice yose in real games.
Certainly, not resigning is considered impolite in levels way below dan; even most SDK consider it impolite if you don’t resign.
It was in order to avoid being considered rude that I asked for permission to continue the game. Had he denied it, I would have resigned immediately.

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